Self Improvement Information

Many times in my life, I have felt that I have been dealing with the same challenge over and over again with a different time stamp.  Have you ever felt that way?

I have come to realize that means I have issues in which I have not resolved in my mind.  Life is giving me different opportunities to learn from each challenge.  What goes on in our minds, is a direct correlation to what is happening in our lives.  That is one of the neatest things about self improvement is that we can use it to unlock some of those secret spaces in our minds and enrich our lives.

One of the biggest flaws in many peoples minds is their feeling of entitlement.  I am not talking about the welfare system, even though that is one of the biggest entitlements around.  I am talking about the idea that we should have something because of our so called “position” in life or in some one’s life.

This plays out in very uncomfortable ways in the lives of the people who are closest to them.  We are not entitled to love if we are being unloving.  We are not entitled to respect if we don’t show others respect.  I am sure you are getting the jest of what I am saying.  I know we all have people in our lives that have the “what’s in it for me today” entitlement mentality.  It is played out on the news every day.

When we attract someone like that into our lives, what is the reflection from our own minds?  The reason that I have noodled on this so much is that I have someone like this in my life that I am unable to turn my back on and walk away from them.  The relationship has always been very troubling to me all of my life.

I am blessed to have so many loving relationships in my life.  I have a wonderful support system.  I am a lover of peace and harmony.  One thing I have learned from that troubling life long relationship is how much I love and appreciate these things.  I have learned to be very grateful for those relationships that nuture me.  I have learned that love is unconditional, but it doesn’t mean that we have to always like them.

From this person, I have learned that guilt is a strong negative emotion that is crippling.  It can ruin your health and well being.  I am learning to not let it destroy my life.  Most of all, I am learning not to accept guilt when it is not mine. 

I would say that even though this relationship will probably always be troublsome to me, I have learned so many wonderful and powerful things that have enriched my life.  It has been like a picture negative.  When I look at the negative it looks disturbing and dark.  When the negative is processed it becomes a picture filled with beauty and color.

I challenge you to look at those things in your life that you perceive as “not good” and really look to find the beauty that is there waiting for you to discover it.  Believe me, it is there.

Most of us have dreams and goals.  Unless, of course, you have become a dull, disillusioned, dead butt.  That is a choice.  I personally prefer dreams and goals.

Having said that, there are times in our lives where we might feel like we have become dull and disillusioned.  If you enjoy self improvement and are reading this blog, I would guess that if you ever feel this way, it is only temporary.

How do we achieve our goals and dreams?  First of all you have to be willing to fight every day for them.  I don’t mean grab a gun and go blast people.  I am talking about fighting the robbers of our dreams.  They come in the form of procrastination, frustration, negative people, loosing focus, and lack of self discipline.  Pretty hefty stuff, right?  This is a blog post not an ebook so let’s take little bites of the issue.

Have Goals You Can Measure and Monitor

Most people don’t have a focus.  They know they would like to have something, but it is vague and unfocused.  If you are wanting help from the metaphysical or physical means you must know what you want.  WRITE IT DOWN!  I can not stress that enough.  I was going through the Mind Movie creation booklet yesterday to update my own personal mind movie and I was re-impressed (if that is a word) on how this simple exercise helped me crystalized my goals and dreams.  That feature alone is worth the small amount spent on the program.  I hope you take the time to look at the website and down load the free premade movies.  The premade movies are amazing!

Do Something Every Day to Move Forward Towards Your Goals

Read over your goals every day.  When your goals are written down it is so much easier to look at them in concrete form.  I guarantee, that if you miss the step of written goals your success will be limited.  Do something every day to move towards your goals.  When you do something, even if it is a small movement towards your goals, you  are creating momentum.

Honestly Evaluate Your Actions You Have Taken Towards Your Goals

Get in the habit of sitting down at night to critique your day and prioritize your next day.  This can be done before you leave your work for the night.  This will help you conquer the dreaded disease of procrastination and it keeps you in touch with your progress.  Be a loving but tough critic of your progress.

Play Full Out

What do I mean by that?  Simply, go after your goals with everything you have.  We are only have this one life, right now.  When you are working at your goals give it all you have.  Extraordinary things are created by extraordinary effort.

Put yourself in the position to fall in love with your dreams over and over.  Whether you use Mind Movies, Visualization techniques, Vision Boards, or Dream Shopping.  Whatever it takes to help you remember what juiced you up about your goals in the first place.

There seems to be a universal “thing” that we humans seem to have.  It is something that not very many people acknowledge.  Perhaps, not that many people realize that we have it.  Or, do they perceive it as weakness?

Most successful people know about this.  When you recognize this and heed its advice the world will open up for you.  What is this “thing” I am talking about?  This “thing” is that everyone has an invisible sign on their chest that says, “Make me feel special”.

This sign is not to be exploited.  Unconsciously, we all know that we have this and any attempt to exploit this to possibly hurt or “have something on them”  will be  met with suspicion, distrust and animosity.  If you are the kind of person who doesn’t really like people, you should stop right here and click on another post and forget about this one.

If you are the type of person that geniunely likes people, you probably already sense this.  Everyone wants to feel special.  Here are a few tips to honestly help others to feel special.

Make Eye Contact

There is a feeling among humans that if you can’t make eye contact with someone you are hiding something and should not be trusted.  I don’t always believe this to be true, but I know that if someone can’t make eye contact with me I am not as comfortable with them.  I have seen it happen many times in the businesses I have been involved with.  Someone who habitually averts their eyes when they are talking with someone is instantly distrusted.

Pay Attention to What Someone is Telling You

This is the most abused social nicety.  Many people, when someone else is talking, are not paying complete attention. They are thinking about what they are going to say next.  This is a absolute no-no!  Listen to them intently!  They know when you aren’t listening.  You will miss some little thing they have said that might change the whole complexity and direction of the conversation.  At that point, you will have lost some of their trust.  It is best to listen to them with your complete attention.  Do not interrupt them.  When they have stopped talking it is perfectly fine to pause to digest what they have said before answering.

Feed it Back to Them

In the conversation, it is helpful to feed some of the information that they have told you back to them.  Questions of clarification are a good way to do this.  If they are telling you about their children, ask questions that relate to what they are telling you.  If they are telling you that Junior likes to play softball, ask “what position does he/she play?”  This shows interest and that you are listening and paying attention to what they have been telling you.

Remember What They Told You

Here is a big one.  Remember what they told you.  I have been blessed with a very good memory.  I work on it.  I want to remember people’s names.  That is important to me.  If you aren’t good at remember names, try the repeat it 3 times trick.  When you are introduced to someone say their name in conversation three times.  For instances, “I am pleased to meet you, Bob.”, “Bob, how many children do you have?”,  “Bob, I would like to introduce you to my friend, Sam”.  When you use this technique, for heavens sake, make sure his name is Bob!

I enjoy people.  I make a point to remember little things people tell me.  When I remember something about them that they told me before, they know they matter to me.  I have made them feel special.

I am sure you have heard the expression, “No one cares how much you know until they know how much you care.”  Take some time to make someone feel special.  As the wheel of life spins, “What goes around, comes around”. 

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