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5 Tips for Successful Motivation

August 31st, 2009 2 comments

Since the dawn of human time, people have been scratching their heads and wondering about .  From the cave leader wondering how to motivate their clan into having the best hunting year, to store up those much needed supplies for winter, to the modern day business person pondering the motivation of themselves and their team to move their business forward.  We all know, to get something accomplished there has to be some motivation involved.

We’ve all had the experience of going to a seminar or convention and after listening to some motivational speakers we come home all jazzed up, ready to conquer the world!  We are excited to rip into our lives or vocation with a renewed vigor.  This time, we are going to make it happen!  But, after a certain length of time we slip back into our usual routine and habits.  How can we get that “convention spirit” to move with us through our lives?  How do we get BIG MOmentum to be with us and play on our team?  Here are 5 things that will attract BIG Mo.

1.  It all starts out with our dreams.  Dreams come from within.  They give us passion.  Dreams become our vision for our lives.  They need to be clear, concise, and emotion driven. What is your vision for your life?  What are you passionate about?  Take time every day to visualize and stoke up the flames of your passion!  Is there room in your vision for others?  How does your vision include those that work with you?  If you want to motivate yourself you will need to see your success, as if it has already happened, in your mind’s eye.  To motivate others, they will need to see themselves fitting into your dream and vision.

2.  The second step to harnessing BIG MO is to believe.  It starts with setting an intention of “this is what I am doing.”  When things are not going right for you that power of belief will keep you moving forward.  The most successful people believe that there is a plan and purpose for their life.  They, also, believe that they are destined for success.  We are all unique people.  We are all designed to bring value to others’ lives.  By using tools like self improvement it is possible to raise that level of belief in ourselves. Growing our knowledge in our chosen field of endeavor increases our level of competency, which increases that belief in ourselves even more.

3.  Take action!  This can’t be stressed enough.  Without action there is no attraction.  When there isn’t continuous action, BIG Mo becomes a thing of the past, if it ever happened at all.  Here is a guideline for action.  If you don’t know what to do, take action.  If you are fearful, take action.  Nothing breaks through to BIG MO more than action.  Don’t let the fear of not knowing what to do stop you.  Get outside the box.  Find out what people need.  Fill that need.  Take risks.  Failure is just another way to know what not to do.  Fail fast, make adjustments, and move on.

4.  Model someone that you view as successful in what you are doing.  Mentor with someone you respect.  Dream big when it comes to who you choose to mentor you.  Follow someone that has already blazed the trail.  Pick a mentor that will hold you accountable.  Then, when you become successful, don’t forget to mentor those coming up.  Have an abundance mentality.  By that, I mean, wanting others to succeed in a big way. Modeling is a huge time saver and the ultimate leverage. 

5.  Have fun!  This last point is very important.  Some people get so wrapped up in wanting success that they stop having fun.  Stop taking yourself so seriously.  Develop your sense of humor.  Make life and your business fun. A fun atmosphere in the workplace is a breeding ground for creativity.  It creates strong relationships.  A team that plays together, stays together.

Motivation is not a science.  It is fed by a clearly defined passion.  The people that succeed are those that set goals that motivates them.  A motivated person moves the people around them.  Everyone would like to have BIG MO playing on their team.  A plan of action needs goals.  Take action, today, by signing up for the free seven day goal setting course on the right side of this page.  BIG MO and your future will thank you for it.

What Successful People Know About Big Mo

August 27th, 2009 1 comment

Most people that aren’t successful wonder why.  Successful people, on the other hand, know exactly why they are successful.  Successful people, whether they realize it or not, study success.  All successful people developed a desire for success.  It became a “must” for them.  Quitting is not an option for them. 

Yesterdays blog post, “The 3 Things You Must Do to Create a Success Breakthrough”, I wrote about clarity.  To obtain success, you must be clear on what you want and why you desire it.  Once you have become clear on why you want success it is time to develop certainty.  When you know that quitting is not an option, that is certainty.  When success becomes a “must”, that is certainty.  Tony Robbins calls certainty the “holy grail of action”.  When you combine certainty with action you will get results!

How do you develop certainty when the entire world seems to be conspiring against it?  Most people struggle with their level of belief.  They have the potential to accomplish what they want, but their belief level is so low that they struggle.  In my July 30th post, “Finding the Millionaire in You”, I wrote about Roger Bannister.  Before 1954, no one had run a mile in 4 minutes. Roger Bannister, against all odds, was the first person to break that record.  Two years later, 37 people had run a 4 minute mile.  Those other 37 people had the potential to break that 4 minute record, but they didn’t do it.  Until they believed it could be done by seeing Bannister do it.  That is when the shift happened in their minds.

When the shift happens and we believe we have the potential, action must follow.  Once action is in play, results start to happen.  When results happen it reinforces the belief in our potential and the cycle starts all over again on a higher level.  That creates Big Momentum.  When “Big Mo” is on your side, look out!  Amazing things start to happen.  If you don’t have “Big Mo” your progression towards success can be painful slow.

How can we attract Big Mo to come play on our team?  It starts in our mind.  It is time to pump up our belief level by finding those people that have done what we want to do.  Model them.  We could even mentor with them.  Mentoring is effective if it is done correctly.  That will be a blog post for another day.

Another way is to visualize.  It has been proven in the sports world that better performance hinges on visualization.  All of us have beliefs about things that are unconscious.  Even though our subconscious mind is not the thinking part of the brain, it rules the roost on our belief levels.  Visualization, done correctly, produces amazing results.  When visualizing, only picture the end results, with emotion.

Getting results in our head first, conditions us for certainty.  Certainty burns the bridges in our minds.  Perfect practice creates perfect results.  Visualization can create that perfect practice.  Keep in mind that visualization is not an overnight thing.  It takes practice and patience and must be followed up with action.

If you are looking for a visualization tool, I highly recommend Mind Movies.  It is a visualization tool that you create on your computer.  You are able to create your own mind movie that you can watch on your computer or iphone every day.  You personalize it with your goals and dreams.  It can even run in the subliminal mode.  The Mind Movie people have made your movie ultra easy to create.  Their small workbook that you go through to prepare your mind movie is excellent for helping you become clear on what you want.

If you are looking for more of a relaxing while you visualize kind of thing, Bruce Muziak’s Relaxation for Manifestation and Relaxation for Wealth are two Cd’s that you can use while you relax.

Above all, nothing happens until you take action and continue to taking action.  When Big Mo becomes your best friend the world of success opens up for you!

The 3 Things You Must Do to Create A Success Breakthrough!

August 26th, 2009 No comments

It is in the genetic make up of human beings to always want more.  That is a fact that I learned in my high school economics class.  The fact of always wanting more is what keeps us, as a race, moving forward and progressing.  Since it is in our genetic make up, why is it that some people are more successful than others?

I would imagine, if I stood out on a street corner with a microphone in my hand and asked people passing by what success means to them, I would get a different definition from everyone.  Some of those definitions would fall into certain categories, such as having lots of money, successful relationships and good health. 

What makes some people very successful and others seem to flounder?  Everyone seems to have the same tools in which to tap into to reach that success available to them.  Why do some people follow through and become successful and others don’t?

Some people would say it is fear that holds people back.  Over achievers will tell you that they probably have more fear than the average person.  Is it the things people choose to fear?  The less successful person fears doing what it takes to succeed.  They fear failure.  They fear success.  The over achiever may have the same fears, but the over riding fear for them is not succeeding at all.  They use their fear as a call to action.  Their fear moves them forward.

A successful person doesn’t just wake up one morning and say to themselves, “Today I am going to be successful.”  Their journey to success may have had some rocky times.  They might have hit rock bottom.  Many success stories have that element of rock bottom to their stories. 

I believe one crucial element to a person’s success is the ability to pick themselves up as many times as it takes to finally succeed.  Successful people have breakthroughs.  They set up habits that create those breakthroughs.  Here are three things that will help create your own success breakthrough.

1.  Get very clear on the reasons you want to be successful.  You must be able to answer the question, “Why is this a must for me?” That clarity will be found in what upsets you and what excites you.

2.  Create ritual success habits.  Breakthroughs happen by conditioning our minds.  Do something every day to condition your mind and body.  Read something, visualize your goals, exercise, etc.  Start out with just one thing and do it over and over until it becomes a habit.  It takes 28 days to form a habit. Doing one thing will create momentum.

3.  Find someone that has succeeded at what you want to do and model yourself after them.  As Abraham Lincoln said, “That some achieve great success, is proof to all that others can achieve it as well.”  Our minds respond well to role models.  By modeling, you will discover the habits, thoughts and actions that created their success.

Anthony Robbins has a great quote.  He says, “There is a powerful driving force inside every human being that once unleashed can make any vision, dream, or desire a reality.” 

Isn’t it time to unleash yours?

Today is a good day to start those success habits by signing up for my free 7 day goal setting course.  Sign up on the right side of this page!

Making Money Using the Value G.A.P.

August 25th, 2009 No comments

Have you ever wondered what the secret is to manifest money?  Unless you are attracting all the money you want in your life, you might have ponder this question from time to time.  Why does it look so easy for some people to make money and it seems so hard for others?

Wealthy people seem to know, inherently, that money, wealth, income, and cash flow are indicators.  Money is a score card of what they are doing and how well they are doing it. It is a indicator of how well they are meeting their customers needs.  They know if they don’t add value to others the dollars and success will not flow to them.

Giving value to what you are doing to make money is like magnetizing steel.  When you magnetize steel, it will pick up far more than its own weight in metal.  Value is a magnet for money.  Value is, also, the lead indicator of wealth.

How do you create value?  Value is created when you give goods or services that are relevant in the eyes of the market you working in.  To add value, it must fill the GAP, which stands for Goals, Activities and Priorities.  Value, in hindsight, is anything a person would do or action they would take to keep something they already have, or to get something they want.

Value is always about the balancing of two things.  It is either about increasing something your customer wants more of, or decreasing something they want less of.  The question then becomes, “how does my product or service increase what my customers desires or decrease what my customers want less of in their life?”

Here’s a technique you can use to decipher this.  You may have heard of the Ben Franklin close.  It’s a clarification process developed by Mr. Franklin many years ago.  It can be used to weigh the pros and cons of any decision or in this case, to clarify the value you propose to add for your customer, or decrease something they want to take out of their life.

Take a sheet of paper, draw a big T on it.  On the one side of the T, write “increase”.  On the other side of the T write “decrease”.  Take your product or your service that you are offering the public and write what it is you provide on the appropriate side.  This is called mapping your value.  When you can map out what your value is to others, it will help you to act on providing more of it.  You will become a master at increasing value to those that buy your products or services.  You will attract more money.  If you don’t master this, your money making abilities will suffer.

Doesn’t it make sense to ask yourself every day, “What ways do I specifically add value to individuals in my marketing niche?”  Fill the G.A.P. and you are on your way!

Our legacy and the Picture Puzzles of our Life

August 24th, 2009 No comments

Today, I was reading Jon Gordon’s newsletter.  Jon is the author of the Energy Bus and his new book, Training Camp, among others.  The theme running through his newsletter is about leaving a legacy.  Jon says, “I’ve been encouraging everyone to think about the legacy they want to leave because knowing how you want to be remembered helps you decide how to live and work today.”  Leaving a legacy is very important to most of us.  Not only do we want to live a life of value with purpose, but we want to leave something that our children and their children can look back on with pride.  A life that was lived with mentoring lessons woven in the fabric  of our life.   Designed to leave foot prints on a road map in which to follow to help them with their purpose driven life.

Jon uses an anology of running a relay.  Jon talks about knowing what the baton is in your life that you are wanting to pass.  I agree with that.  An analogy that holds meaning for me is a big picture puzzle.  When my mother was in the hospital our entire family gathered at the hospital like most families do.  Because of the critical nature of her condition at the time, we could only spend 10 minutes of every hour with her.  We had lots of time to do the jigsaw puzzles in the waiting room.  Thank goodness, they were all in the original boxes!  Without those boxes, we wouldn’t have know what the puzzle should look like when it was completed.

Our lives are like those puzzles.  There are hundreds of pieces to put together to make it work.  If we don’t have a picture in our minds of what we would like our lives to look like, just like a puzzle without the box, we will be faced with hundreds of pieces that we have no idea how they fit together. 

It is important that we have a vision for our lives.  We need to know what a successful life means to us. Do you know what accomplishments you feel are important to the purpose of your life?  If we can see that picture with our mind’s eye, it makes our decisions easier when we are holding that puzzle piece in our hand that is all black with just a little patch of sky on it.  One piece at a time we will create the masterpiece of our life!

As baseball great and team manager, Lawrence “Yogi” Berra once said, “If you don’t know where you are going, you will wind up somewhere else!”

The Stories of our Lives

August 19th, 2009 No comments

I was sitting on my deck the other day.  It was a beautiful day.  The weather was not our usual Midwestern August heat and humidity.  A cold front had moved in, and all of God’s creatures, including me, were enjoying the best of what life has to offer.
 
A friend of our family stopped over to see us.  I hadn’t seen him for awhile.  My first question was, “how are you?”  He proceeded to tell me what maladies had befallen him.  As I listened, I was reminded of what I have learned about how we all tell our stories. 

We all have our stories.  We tell them over and over again.  Our stories become our lives.  They are what we tell ourselves and others about us. Often times, as was the case with my friend, we allow ourselves to tell stories about failing health.  Sometimes, we talk about our lack of money, or a relationship gone bad.  This can be more damaging to our health and success than anything else we do.  We can torpedo our success with our story.

Our subconscious mind is the non thinking part of our brain.  Even though it doesn’t “think”, it runs our entire lives.  It is the “manifesting depot” of our lives.  Every train of thought that you have repeatedly goes through that depot and becomes form in the physical world.  Literally, “thoughts become things”. 

Since our subconscious mind is the non-thinking part of our brain, it accepts everything we feed it without judgement.  If you tell your subconscious that, “I have gout”, like my friend was telling me, your subconscious doesn’t question or judge that thought.  It just does its job and makes sure that your body has gout.  He was telling me, also, that he was being tested for arthritis and that it runs in his family.  He has probably been having repeated thoughts about his “family’s illness”, maybe all his life, and that it will probably befall him too.  Guess what is being ordered up on his plate of physical ailments….arthritis!

I am not making any kind of a judgement about our conversation and what he had to tell me.  Unless, we are very vigilant about what we are thinking and saying, we could all have similar conversations.  It is very easy to fall into this type of a conversation.  We are bombarded every day with commercials on tv about every disease known to man and some not known until they tell us about them.  These commercials want to sell us the current “wonder drug” available.  We hear of these things over and over again until we develop the need to use their wonderful new inventive drug.  New drugs are being invented almost daily.  If these wonder drugs are working so well, why are we still getting sick?

We can see how 40 years of food commercials have impacted our society.  80% of the population is corpulently endowed.  Every day our manifestation depot is being bombarded with trains of thought that are sickening us, making us fat and depressed. 

How can we redirect those trains of thought before they hit the station?  Be vigilant on what perilous thoughts you may be thinking.  Be wary of “I am”, “I will”, “I have” statements unless you would like to have or be what those statements say.  Say or think them enough and you are guaranteed to believe them.  Once you have incorporated those thoughts into your belief system they are yours forever, unless you change that belief.  A belief is only a thought that has been focused on and repeated with emotion many times.  Those repeated thoughts are actually affirmations.  You are affirming your bad health, your lack of money, your failed relationships or what ever you tell yourself over and over again.  Make a point to develop life enhancing affirmations.  Change those “I am “, “I have”, and “I will” statements so they affirm your success, your great relationships, and the abundance of money in your life.

When your friends starts to talk about their illnesses or their latest misadventure, don’t chime in with an agreement.  Even worse is to be companionable and start talking about your own “stuff”.  Your subconscious is like a very young child who doesn’t think or understand what they hear and see.  Whenever a small child sees someone they admire doing anything, they will repeat it.

By the time we have reached our adult life we have formed many habits that we have put on automatic pilot or self running programs.  If these programs aren’t working for us, it is time to take charge of what we are doing, thinking, and saying.  It is time to reprogram our lives for what we want to accomplish.

I have mentioned John Kehoe before in my blog posts.  He is the author of Mind Power Into the 21 Century.  He has spent his entire life researching the mind.  I have a link for you to one of his articles on the subconscious mind.  He has written a series of articles about this topic that you will find in the same location.  They are understandable and fascinating.  I encourage you to read these articles. 

It is never too late to change our story. There is always time to make them success stories. That’s what you really want, isn’t it?  I would love for you to leave me a comment about your success stories or what you have learned about your story.

Embracing our Fear Factor

August 17th, 2009 1 comment

I have been involved in the business world for over 20 years.  I have had an opportunity to make some observations about success and failure.  Every one of us is capable of both.  All of us have experienced both in some capacity.  The reason some people are more successful than others is not that they have not had as many failures as those who are less successful.  The thing that successful people have that others don’t is that they have a process they use to overcome fear.

There isn’t a piece of flesh on this planet that hasn’t felt fear.  We all know how it feels.  When we come across something that we are afraid of our heart starts to beat faster, we start to perspire, sometimes our stomachs flip over or “flutters”.  That is called our fight or flight response.  But, why do we fear?

Fear has been around since the beginning of man kind.  It was designed to keep us safe.  When we were being chased by fierce creatures, fear gave us the adrenalin in our fight or flight response to escape those creatures.  When did fear stop being our friend? 

In our modern age, we are chased less by fierce creatures, but I would say that fear has been on an increase.  We still need our fear response that keeps us safe.  But, we also have unreasonable fear that hinders our success.  I have seen brave young men and women who have fought in battles for our country come home.  When they have been confronted with a phone to make a business related call, they freeze.  How can they be so brave in one situation and so fearful in another?  What can we do to become less fearful so we can succeed?

Here are 5 tips on overcoming fear.

1.  Get in touch with what you fear.  Write it down.  Putting it on paper helps to get a handle on exactly what is causing this response.  When it is put on paper, sometimes that alone helps us realize it isn’t that big of a deal.  Writing it down helps put it in perspective.

2.  Now that you have written it down you can devise a game plan for countering it.  Start out with baby steps.  For instance, let’s say you have a fear of talking to people you don’t know.  We have been told since we were small not to talk to strangers.  When you are on your daily travels doing errands say hello to someone.  Did it kill you?  Did they strike you?  Where they unfriendly?  Did they make you feel stupid?  No, of course not.  You should be proud of yourself for taking that first step.  There is nothing more empowering than conquering a fear.  Next, take a bigger step, start a conversation with someone.  See how you can build on your successes?

3.  When you realize that you are fearful start looking at it in a different light or perspective.  For instances, let’s say you fear dogs.  You can start looking at dogs in a different perspective by watching other people interact with their dogs.  Are they frightened of their dog?  Fear gives off a vibration.  You may have been attacked by a dog in your past because you were giving off a vibration of fear.  Do you notice how a dog owner carries themselves differently then you do when they are in the presence of their pet?  

4.  Stay in the now.   Wikipedia says, “worth noting is that fear always relates to future events, such as worsening of a situation, or continuation of a situation that is unacceptable.”  Notice how it says it is a future event.  Meaning that it hasn’t happened.  I have heard fear referred to as False Evidence Appearing Real.  Almost all the things we fear never happen.  The best way to combat those futuristic fears is to stay in the now.  Take your mind of your fear driven thoughts and notice what you are doing right at this moment in the now.  Unless you are being confronted by one of those pesky fierce creatures right now in this moment, you shouldn’t have any fears. 

5.  Redefine who you are.  When you talk about yourself watch for those “I am” statements that pertain to your identity and incorporate your fears.  Don’t say, “I am afraid of dogs.” or “I am afraid to make a sales call.”  “I am” statements speak directly to your subconscious.  You will become more of what your “I am” statement says you are.

Susan Jeffers who wrote the book “Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway” says in Truth 1, “The fear will never go away as long as I continue to grow.”  Followed closely by Truth 2 that says, “The only way to get rid of the fear of doing something is to go out and do it.”  The reason that people succeed is not that they don’t have fear.  It is that they push through it over and over and over again until they no longer fear it.

As Eleanor Roosevelt said, “Courage is more exhilarating than fear and in the long run it is easier. We do not have to become heroes overnight. Just a step at a time, meeting each thing that comes up, seeing it is not as dreadful as it appeared, discovering we have the strength to stare it down.”

These are just a few ways to overcome fear. Have you ever overcome a fear?  Leave me a comment letting me know how you did it.