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4 Tips on Using Your Emotions to Change Your Life

September 23rd, 2009 Leave a comment Go to comments

happy faceThe life we live is dictated by the thoughts we habitually think.  Do you buy into that?  Many people, when they finally accept the fact that their thoughts determine what happens in their life, become overwhelmed by the idea of controlling their every thought.  That is when some people will throw up their hands and say, “This is too hard, I can’t do this!”

I think, a lot of people have had those same thoughts.  How can we go about thinking better thoughts?  As human beings, we were blessed with an emotional guidance system.  We differ from other animals on the planet because we can be proactive and not reactive using this system.  What is an emotional guidance system?

When we habitual think the same thoughts, we, humans, attach an emotion to those thoughts.  For an example, if we are always thinking the thought that we are not worthy of love, that thought is not in alignment with who we are.  When that thought is present, we feel bad, sad, hopeless, etc.  You get the picture.  The feelings that we attach to that thought is our emotional guidance system.  When we are thinking that thought about not being worthy of love the negative emotion is telling us that we are thinking a thought that is not who we really are.  I could give you the spiritual concept for saying that last statement, but let’s approach it from another angle.  If we humans were not worthy of love where would the human race be?  We would not crave social situations and loving interactions with other people. We would not form families, communities and Monday night football parties!  We would be content with the life of a sea sponge.  We would just sit and soak stuff up and not feel anything.

You are probably saying right now, “OK, Nan, I accept that.  How do I change my thoughts?”  Forcing change never gets where you want to go.  Have you ever noticed that when you try to force something it automatically grows stronger?  If I told you not to think of a yellow lemon and how sour that lemon is, what are you thinking about….a lemon?  The more I talked to you about the the bump peel and when you peel it you can smell the citrus aroma of the lemon.  I can tell you to stop thinking about the lemon.  I could shake you and yell into your face “stop thinking about the lemon!”  Are you still thinking of the lemon?  What you focus on grows.  Forcing causes resistance.

Here’s a few tips on how to use our emotional guidance system to change our thoughts.

1.  When you start to notice that you are feeling sad, depressed, or any other negative emotion, stop right away, and think about what thoughts you were having.  When you have figured out what the thought was that caused the negative emotion, ask yourself, “do I really believe that thought or am I letting my mind run a “crash and burn program”.  Are you, for some reason, punishing yourself or do you actually believe what you are thinking.  When we get into a negative loop of thought, our mind will bring up anything to continue that loop until we become completely frustrated or change our train of thought.

2.  Once you have isolated the thought that is causing you to feel bad, can you change it up so you feel just a little bit better?  If we can start moving our mind to better feeling thoughts we can climb out of the self defeating cycle of thoughts.  Compare the two thoughts;  “I hate not having any money.” versus “I am looking forward to when I have more money.”  Can you feel the difference? 

3.  Change the thought by changing your perception.  When feeling a negative thought, is there a way to change the way you view that subject that might produce a better feeling thought? For instances, “My father always criticizes my actions.” versus “I am glad my father loves me enough to tell me when I am behaving poorly.”

4.  Be careful of “I am”, “I have”, and “I always” statements to yourself.  Unless, you want that statement to be true.  Statements such as “I am broke.”, “I have heart problems.”, or “I always pick the wrong type of men to date.”  These are just a few examples.  Using these types of statements speak directly to your subconscious mind and your emotional guidance system.  When you combine that with emotion it is a powerful manifesting combination.

Once you have taken ownership of your thoughts, their responsibility in your life, and combined with understanding your emotional guidance system you are well on your way to manifesting the life you truly want.

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  1. beaverdale boy
    September 24th, 2009 at 07:05 | #1

    Really hits home— You are what you think.

  2. May 12th, 2011 at 23:47 | #2

    It’s exhausting to seek out educated people on this subject, but you sound like you understand what you’re speaking about! Thanks

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