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5 Tips to Overcoming the Stress of Frustration

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Each one of us has our own relationship with the emotion of frustration.  Here’s a little secret between you and me.  If you don’t learn how to deal with frustration it can stop all your attempts to become successful.  Do you think I’m being harsh?  Let’s think about it for a moment.

Frustration is stressful.  Some people, when they become frustrated, throw up their hands and quit.  Frustration becomes personal for them.  They feel, personally, assaulted by this nameless, faceless enemy.  They move themselves into ” victim-hood”.  They don’t have the moxie or stick-to-it-ness to stay with it and conquer it.

There are people who become frustrated and instead of quitting, they realize what they are working on is worth working through their frustration and stress.

Out there in the world is another strange breed, who encounter frustration and their personal alarms go off and they become excited.  They know the reward for working through their frustration will be well worth it.

It’s like a story I heard about the fish tank and the barracuda.  If you put a barracuda in a big tank and feed him, he is an amazing and aggressive creature.  He will hit the food with all the vigor of a hungry predator.

During this experiment, we slide a glass divider down into his tank and divide the tank into 2 distinct halves.  After doing this, we drop the food into the side of the tank the barracuda doesn’t have access to.  He can see the food and he will attack just like he had before.  Whack! He runs headlong into the glass divider.  He backs up, swims again at his prey with all his might.  Smash!  Into the divider again.  After a few attempts, he will swim away and leave his food source swimming unmolested on the other side.  He will continue to ignore his food source no matter how hungry he may get.  This is a story of frustration gone bad.

I know from personal experience how upsetting frustration can be.  As you may have noticed, it’s been awhile since I’ve posted to my blog.  I’ve been very busy writing a book on elder care.  Since I’ve been actively involved in elder care for the past 15 years, I decided others could benefit from my experiences.

I haven’t had a lot of experience in the technical end of this endeavor.  Putting up the page to let everyone know about the book led me to quite a few frustrating days.  I’d never put an ebook on line before.

I’m one of those crazy nut-balls who looks at frustration as an emotion one may have to go through to reach a worthwhile goal.  Frustration doesn’t make me quit.  Sometimes, I have a fleeting moment of wanting to throw up my hands and say “enough!”  But, the little voice in my head says, “relax, regroup, it will be worth it!”

Here’s 5 tips, which work for me, on how to conquer frustration.

1.  When frustration hits, and emotions are running high, I stop what I’m doing and take a break.  For me to continue to work with this emotion unchecked is a recipe for disaster!  It’s like spinning my wheels in mud.  Lot’s of energy spent with no results.  Sometimes, my break lasts for a full 24 hours.

2.  When taking a break, I remove myself completely from the situation.  I go some place, even if it’s only into the next room, with a goal of relaxation. I meditate, listen to some relaxing music, take a hot shower, or take a walk.  Anything to take my mind completely off my subject matter and calm me down.  Many times, this alone will help me see how to fix my problem.  I know my brain is still be noodling on it, in the background, even if I have taken my attention off of it.

3.  I have adopted the “no prisoners” philosophy to my project.  I’m not going to quit the project, no matter how upset I get.  When frustration hits, I release the emotions.  Yes, sometimes I shake my fist and curse the project, stomp my feet or any other childish emotional release, but I know I will conquer this project.  Sooner or later, victory will be mine!

4.  When frustration has set in I like to bounce things off someone.  My special someone is my husband.  He may not know anything about the subject I’m frustrated with, but he let’s me talk it through.  He makes suggestions.  Even when he doesn’t know anything about the subject matter, his suggestions gets my brain going on another track.  I can’t count the number of times this tip has worked to help me bust through the frustration barrier and accomplish my goal.

5.  When I am staring through the glass barrier at my prey, and I’ve hit my head a few times.  I swim over to the side of the tank and sleep.  I take the evening off and do something fun.  I then go to sleep that night with a notebook beside my bed in which to write my thoughts down when I wake up with an “Eureka!” moment.  Some of my writings have been difficult to decipher in the morning, but many a break through has happen when I sleep.

Frustration doesn’t have to kill the project.  It can, actually, work as a learning tool.  The main ideas is, “don’t quit”.  There’s always a way through it, around it, or over it.

I’m very proud of the fact that I have my book on line.  It’s a great feeling to push past frustration and accomplish the task!  We all have ways to work through frustration.  Leave me a comment and let me know what works for you.  We can all learn from each other.

To check out my new e book, click here!

 

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