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Napoleon Hill’s success lesson for today on how to have a pleasing personality is a lesson that successful people learn and use to their advantage.  Many times, the person who could use some work in this area doesn’t understand why they don’t have friends and people don’t want to “hang out” with them.  I think we have all been around someone that gives off negative vibes from the moment they walk into the room.  Most often, it is the subtleties of human interaction that they haven’t mastered.

In this 10 minute video, Napoleon gives some clear points on how to have a pleasing personality and how to avoid repelling people.  These points are a must if we want to excel and attract people.  Our personalities are part of the equation in our quest for success.

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Today is part 3 of the 4 part personality series.  Have you found your dominate personality yet?  If you have an organization or club, you will want this personality type to be involved.  Everything always runs smoother with their help. 

STABILITY PERSONALITY

This personality type values rules, traditions and authority.  They always have a clear idea of what people should be doing.  They want to belong.  They are detail oriented and hard workers.  They enjoy being useful, productive, and a contributor.

The enjoy caring for others and looking out for them.  They are very organized and are always prepared for the future.  They are the planners.  They live by lists and directions.  If they embrace a goal setting system they can become methodical in pursuit of those goals.

They view family and home as the core of society.  They believe it is important to have laws, rules and control.  They are the stabilizing force in any organization.  They are good at being the club secretary and minute keeper.  They make good sports officials and police officers.

Their weakness is stepping out of “the box” and it can be a challenge for them.  It is, also, difficult for them to accept ideas that are radically different and they resist change.  They have a stubborn streak.  They will change when presented with strong practical reasons for the change.  They will need their “special time” to analyze facts.  They love to do research!

They demonstrate their love in practical ways.  If you are in a relationship with a stability personality and you need a toaster, you might get one for Valentine’s Day, instead of chocolates and flowers.  They are always loyal, dependable, punctual, and trustworthy.  Structure and organization is everything to them.  They are the backbone of social systems.  They see hierarchy as vital to society, families and organizations.  They believe any leadership or authority role must be earned.  They have strong urges to conserve, plan and perpetuate.

If they are asked to go on “the trip”, they would jump at the chance to plan the route, make the reservations and plan the itinerary.  They can become easily annoyed by the Action and Relationship personalities for not respecting time lines, rules and the plans that have been made.

I am very lucky to be married to a stability/action person.  I am a relationship/action person and he is my rock.

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Welcome to part 2 of my 4 part series on personality types.  Yesterday, I wrote about the action personality.  I am sure, if you read it, you either saw yourself in that action person or someone you know.  We all know, we are each individual people.  It is not my intention to lump everyone together and say that if you have this trait, you are this personality type.  On the contrary, as we learning and grow in life and embrace self improvement, we become much more balanced individuals.   We develop and have traits from each personality type.   If you are a person who enjoys people or you are in a career position where you need to understand different personalities these 4 part series should be helpful. 

Do you remember my question at the end of yesterday’s blog post?  Have you figured out yet what Oprah and June Cleaver have in common?  What they have in common is that they share the same personality type.  Here’s a little bit about that type.

RELATIONSHIP PERSONALITY

They are all about relationships.  People, people, people!  People are much more important than things.  They desire lots of friends to share and care with.  Their integrity is very important to them.  They are authentic and unique.  The love helping others become what they can be.  They show emotions easily.  They enjoy flowers, music and romantic movies.

They love to help friends solve their problems.  They are very intuitive and their hunches are known for working well.  They have a large amount of empathy and sympathy for others.  They thrive on recognition and acceptance.

They are very good at motivating people.  They see the possibilities in others and in themselves.  Relationship people are drawn to setting goals and working in careers that involve people.  Always striving for authenticity, they want to become the best person that they can be.  Uniqueness is important, yet they can become chameleon like and shift identities to fit the situation. 

Life is a search for meaning.  Warmth and compassion flow easily and with sincerity.  They value loyalty in their relationships.  Disloyalty is perceived as a sin of epic proportions.  They are imaginative, very creative, and have lots of sensitivity to the thoughts and feelings of other people.  When you visit them in their home, it is filled with pictures of loved ones and friends.  Their homes are set up for comfort, yours and theirs.

The challenge that relationship people have is that they would rather make a friend than close a deal.  They feel compassion and empathy so strongly that they have a hard time asking their friends or business contacts the tough questions and chance running the risk of having others become “mad at them”.  This is an area that they will always have to work on and train themselves to be more assertive and not fall victim to the “relationship personality’s” Achilles heal of being “too warm and too giving”.

If you were to ask this personality to accompany you on a trip, the first question they would ask you is, “who’s going?”

Now, do you see what Oprah and June clever have in common?  Relationships people make very good friends, but you may have to share them with others as their talent for making people feel warm and accepted is always in demand.

Tomorrow’s clue:  This personality types believes in_________.