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Goals – Are They Only a Figure of Speech?

January 4th, 2011 Leave a comment Go to comments

This time of year, everyone is talking about their goals.  They might call them New year’s resolutions, intentions, or commitments for the coming year.

Yesterday, I was out and about with a friend.  We stopped by a neighborhood coffee house to indulge in a delicious steaming cup of hot chocolate on a cold day.  As we were leaving and preparing to get into our car, a man in a white minivan pulled up.  He was going to attempt to park in the spot next to ours.  It would be a very close fit.  The gentleman rolled down his window and said, “is that your goal?”

It took me a minute to realize, he was talking about a goal of me getting into the car.  Obviously, he was wanting to let us get into our car before he squeezed his big beast into the spot next to us.  I thought it was very considerate of him, but an odd phrasing to his question.

This got me thinking.  Do most people only give lip service to making goals?  Do some people use it in their figure of speech and nothing more?

Many of us start the year with great plans, but as time goes on, don’t accomplish them.  We start out gung ho to lose weight, get a better job, earn more money, and by the second week, we are cruising down the same well worn path as before.

Setting goals is a worthy activity.  I read somewhere, when making goals, “think it than ink it”.  I know many people talk about goals, like my experience with the man in the minivan.  When it comes right down to writing those goals down, it is a different story.  Goals, not written down, have a 98% chance of failure.

Goals were devised to help us plot a course towards our crystallized and clarified vision for our lives. As Jesse Stoner Zemel said, “A vision is a clearly-articulated, results-oriented picture of a future you intend to create. It is a dream with direction.”

But, what if we have written our goals and still nothing happens?  Is it the fault of our goals setting?  Could it be that our vision is either not clear, or we are actually visualizing worst case scenarios in our minds, instead of where our goals want us to be?

I have a friend who always tells me, “I always picture the worst thing that could happen in my mind so I am not disappointed when it happens.  If it doesn’t, and something good happens, I am happy.” When a pessimistic statement such as this is made, are we shocked?  Or, do we think like that even though we might not give it voice?

If we set our goals and we don’t stick to them, or they don’t happen,  it could be lack of self discipline.  Or, our image of ourselves, and the way we live our lives, is not congruent with our goals?

When we set a goal of a 10% increase in our earnings for this coming year, but we don’t feel worthy of making more money, it won’t happen.  Holding a belief about ourselves, which is different than what we are longing for, or believing money is bad, are two beliefs which creates friction within ourselves.  We won’t make any lasting progress until we change our belief about money and/or our self image about having it.

As I look at the goals I made last year and what I accomplished, I can see a pattern.  I can see where my beliefs aren’t congruent with my goals.  If I try to bull doze my way toward them, I will only push them away because of the resistance it sets up in myself.  If I have a goal, but don’t have the belief system to support it, I will fail.

One of the wondrous things about setting goals every year and writing them down is the ability to look at them over and over again.  We can revisit them daily.  With each visit, we can commit ourselves to our vision of the life we want our goals to lead us to.  The next year, when it is time to revamp and set new goals, we can look at them, and see a pattern we should deal with.

Shouldn’t goals be more important than just a figure of speech?

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  1. January 4th, 2011 at 16:40 | #1