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How Do I Practice Postive Parenting? Tip 4 – Discipline

October 8th, 2009 Leave a comment Go to comments

Child ability to get into troubleI remember, when I was young and single, how seeing a unruly child’s behavior swore to myself that “I will never have a child that acts like that!”  Be careful of that kind of statements.  It seems whenever we make those kind of statements, the world will conspire against us.  When we do have children, we find ourselves dealing with that behavior. How do we practice positive parenting and discipline our children effectively?

When it comes to discipline, every parent has their own philosophy.  People feel very strongly about this subject.  As they should.  This is one of the basics of raising children.  No one’s system is completely flawless.  The only requirement is that both parents be on the same page.  That is not as easy as it sounds.

Each one of us has been raised in different families and our experiences are sometimes vastly different.  God, with his infinite sense of humor, seems to pair people up with completely different ideas on discipline.  That’s when communication is very important.

What is discipline?  I believe it is a very misunderstood concept.  Here is a great quote from a website called Keeping Kids Healthy.  I couldn’t have said it better myself.  “Discipline is not the same as punishment. Instead, discipline has to do more with teaching, and involves teaching your child right from wrong, how to respect the rights of others, which behaviors are acceptable and which are not, with a goal of helping to develop a child who feels secure and loved, is self-confident, self-disciplined and knows how to control his impulses, and who does not get overly frustrated with the normal stresses of everyday life.”

Every one of our children are different.  Many times what we thought we knew about discipline can be thrown out the window when we give birth to the “strong willed child”.  Believe me, I could write volumes about that.  Remember, I was never going to have my child act like __________.  My first child was my baptism of fire in child rearing.  She was the poster child for the strong willed child.  Dealing with a strong willed child it is important to discipline without breaking their spirit.  It is not a sin for your child to tell you no.  What they tell you and what they do are 2 different things.

We learned to be creative.  We learned that she reacted positively to our weekly “star chart”.  If she did her jobs around the house and didn’t throw temper tantrums, every day, she would earn a star on her chart. One week of stars earned her the privilege of staying up late on Friday night where we would play games, eat pop corn and watch her favorite TV show.

She grew up to be a loving, warm, and caring person.  She is my artist.  She is unconventional and a free thinker.  Being a strong willed child became a strength.  She was not intimidated to cave in under peer pressure.  That was huge during the teenage years.  She has a strong sense of right and wrong.

I do know that we are never given more than we can handle.  I believe that each adversity has an opportunity closely tied to it.  I feel that we are given situations that help us grow and develop our souls.  I know that I am the person I am because of the things I have gone through.

Just remember, when you are frustrated, “This too shall pass.”  Nothing last forever.  Enjoy your children.  They are grown and on their own before you know it.  


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  1. September 29th, 2011 at 11:00 | #1

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