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How to Beat the Evil Twin of Success Also Known as Discouragement

March 29th, 2011 Leave a comment Go to comments
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Goals and dreams are exciting!  They can light up our world.  They give us a reason to put our feet on the floor every morning.  Along with goals and dreams comes the polar opposites of discouragement and failure.  Everyone, no matter who you are have been, or will be subjected to them.

The difference between our successes and failures is how we each handle discouragement.  I have a dear friend, who when faced with failure, becomes fatally discouraged and quit whatever they were doing and latch securely onto the expressions, “I can’t”, I wasn’t born to do this”, or my all time favorite (I say with all the sarcasm I can muster) “It’s always been this way, why should I change?”

I heard a speaker once say, “if someone had a gun to the head of one of your children, would you just lay down and quit, say you can’t do it and let it go?” Most of us would say, “hell no!” But, when we let our dreams and goals go without a fight and slump into fatal discouragement, isn’t that exactly what we are doing?

Someone might not be, literally, holding a gun to the head of one of children.  But if we don’t learn how to deal with frustration and discouragement isn’t that a lesson our children are learning from us, which can eventually put a stop to their dreams and goals in their lives?

Face it, our kids watch us and how we deal with love, success, freedom, discipline, discouragement and frustration, just to name a few.  We are walking, talking lessons in life, whether we like it or not.

One of things I ask myself when I’m in the throes of discouragement and despair, is my goal or objective worthy or should I let it go? The more attached I am to my goal or objective, the easier it is to say “hell no, I’m not giving up!”

The second thing I ask myself is a perspective question.  If I can get through my discouragement, in 5 years what will I remember the most? The agony of the discouragement or the thrill of victory!

The third thing I ask myself is, how can I get around my discourage, work through it, or blast it out of my way? Once my mind is made up that I’m not going to quit, the discouragement melts away.  Resolve replaces it.  Solutions become apparent.

Life is journey!  It isn’t always easy, but it is worth it.  As Bob Proctor would day,  “Lack and limitation can only exist when we make room for them in our mind.” The same is true for discouragement.  Isn’t discouragement just another lack and limitation?  Doesn’t discouragement breed a lack of motivation and limits success?  The next time you face the evil twin of success, ask yourself the three question.  You might be surprised by your answers.

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