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Parenting – Are We Allowing Our Children to be Part of the Family Team?

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Years ago, at the start of the Industrial age, children were put into the work force.  They worked long and hard hours.  They never had a childhood, where they could run and play.  As a society, we have done a complete reversal.  Have we gone too far?

We are now facing an epidemic, of child obesity.  It is convenient to blame McDonald’s and fast food.  When we really look at what our children’ s lifestyles are these days, it is something to ponder.  Are we, the parents, doing what we are suppose to do for our children?  Isn’t our role as a parent to raise children to be independent and productive members of society?

Most families today, have both parents working.  When Mom and Dad get home, they are exhausted!  I’ve been there.  I know how tired one can be after a long day at work.  It is easy to pack the kids up and head out for a quick meal.  I understand this.  When I was a child, and my Mom worked, I was responsible for having the dinner ready when she came home.  Amazing concept!

My concern is, children are not being allowed to become part of the family team.  Most children, don’t have important jobs around the house to contribute to the family.  When they get home from school, they are free to watch TV, play video games, have after school snacks, and do nothing until Mom and Dad come home.

Every child needs to feel they are contributing to the family.  That the jobs, they are responsible for, are very important to the whole family.  If we let them off the hook, and they aren’t responsible for anything but their school work, is that really fair to them and to, you, the parent?

When I was a working parent with children, I got a lot of flack, from concerned relatives, about the jobs my children were responsible for around the house.  They were, usually, people who hadn’t worked outside the home when their children were young.

I see working parents who work all week, and on the weekend, they work both days around the house and yard.  They work, while the kids watch TV, play video games, or some other amusement of their choice.  Are we responsible for raising children with no concept of a work ethic?

When my children were young, and I was working outside the home, they had jobs around the house.  Were they always happy about their jobs?  No, they weren’t.  What they did get out of working around the house was a sense of pride.  They realized, if they did their jobs, it would free up Mom and Dad for some fun on the weekends.  If the stars on the calendar were complete, we would be able to do something, together as a family, they wanted to do.

I’m not suggesting shackling your children to the house work wheel.  I am saying, it is healthy for children to have jobs around the house and yard.  It will give them a sense of family pride, as they work as a team.

We have come so far from putting our children into hard labor to earn money for the family.  Our children have time to be kids.  Let’s not let it go too far.  Children who contribute and share the work load in their families, learn to how to do the important tasks around the house and yard.  They learn how to be productive members of society.  That’s what we really want, isn’t it?

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