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Parenting – How Do I Handle the Feelings of Guilt?

November 1st, 2010 Leave a comment Go to comments

It can be very frustrating to work a full time job, while balancing a full time Mommy or Daddy position.  I have seen so many working Moms and Dads feeling guilty and beating up on themselves because of this.  I have even done it myself!  The guilty can take us over, if we let it.

I have been on both sides of the motherhood coin.  I have worked a very time consuming and stressful job when I had small children.  I have, also, been a stay home mom chasing after the little guys!

I enjoyed my career and I enjoyed being home with my kids.  There are stresses to both worlds.  Life is too short to bog ourselves down with unproductive feelings of guilt.  No one wins in the guilt scenario.  What ever we decide our role is, we should learn to find the good things in what we are doing.

If a job is needed to help balance the tight budget, then do it.  Many working parents don’t have a desire to stay home with their children.  That’s OK too!  Make the decision to do what you need to do and drop the guilty.

Guilt is a double edge sword.  We can use one side of the sword to punish ourselves for taking time away from our kids to go to work.  The other side of the sword can be used by the kids, who sense our guilty feelings about working.  It’s time to sheath the sword and stow it away where it can’t hurt anyone, any more!

Many people when balancing their careers and families feel bad not having enough time to do their house work.  When ever I started feeling guilty about not have Mr. Clean as my best friend, I made a point to stop and think, 5 years from now will anyone remember whether my house was clean?  Instead, I chose to spend time with my kids.  Five years from now, they might not remember on that exact date whether our home was sparkling clean.  They will remember we played and spent time together.  They will always know how much they mean to me.

Divide up the house hold chores among everyone.  Even the littlest guys can do things to help.  They are fantastic go-fers!  The extra dividend of the family pitching in and dividing up the chores is, they learn how to take care of themselves.  It will help raise them to be independent, productive adults with great work ethics!

When it’s boiled right down to the barest bones, we need to prioritize our lives.  We should decide, what is the most important thing to us.  Talk it over with our spouses and  our kids.

The Mommy and Daddy roles is a roller coaster ride of ups and downs.  We all know this to be true.  I say, make a decision, communicate with your family about the decision, and don’t ever feel guilty about it, again.  Decide to enjoy your life, and what ever rolls into it!

Have you found a way to let go of the guilt?  Leave me a comment and let me know what works for you!

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